Happy Monday! Today’s Monday Musings post is on forgiveness and how it’s not singularly ‘beneficial’ for the person you forgive but also for you to overcome life’s obstacles and continue living your life.
Forgiveness is a reflection of loving yourself enough to move on
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
One question that will always cross the mind of someone who has ever been victimised is – “does the wrongdoer deserve my forgiveness?”
But the real question should be: “What good is it to me if I don’t forgive them anyway?”
Holding onto anger and bitterness does nothing but poison your mind with hateful thoughts, or even create desire for revenge.
But forgiveness isn’t about letting your perpetrator off the hook, but it’s more about healing yourself. The psychological definition of forgiveness is the refusal to hurt the person who hurt you and has nothing to do with forgetting about the whole incident(s).
As a victim of cyberbullying in the past 12 months, I’ve been trying so hard to forgive this girl for wreaking havoc on my inner peace. And she’s been relentless, going to great lengths to discourage me from writing this blog.
But at the end of the day, she’s wasting her own time making all these fake accounts, posting as other beauty bloggers who she claims are her friends who apparently also find me a repugnant person.
Anyway, I’ve decided to not give a crap about what she’s said or has to say. I don’t even know her personally, so it annoys me that it still bothers me. But I think the way to forgiving her for all the hurtful words is just to dismiss the issue altogether and focus on doing what I want to do.
Today’s takeaway can be summed up with the following quote:
Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behaviour.
Forgiveness prevents their behaviour from destroying your heart.
– Hemant Smarty
BTW, if anyone is feeling crappy for whatever reason, feel free to drop me an email on leann(at)intuitivehearts.com.au