When flicking through old camera uploads today, I found a mass of break up quotes that I had saved in the beginning of the year when I was still trying to mend a failed 3-year relationship. The following are just 6 quotes that put me on track as I struggled to accept that the great love we had was indeed gone forever.
Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.
If love, affection and/or attention isn’t something that the other person is ready to give to you when all you’ve ever done is try to make them realise your presence, then fuck them.
Who wants to be that pitiful person who constantly chases an unrequited love? Have some more respect for yourself because you’ll end up appearing as the psychotic, obsessive ex-girlfriend that he didn’t want to love (anymore).
I didn’t respect myself when I decided to hang on to that shred of hope. I blinded myself from the truth that was revealing itself to me from every corner of the room. Friends gave me warnings that he wasn’t worth any more than the $100 that he still owed me. I hung onto that $100 debt like it was my ticket back to the times when we were genuinely happy together. Now I realise how naive I was almost a year ago.
I read some of the screenshots of our whatsapp messages of that time. I can’t believe I let someone talk down to me like that, you shouldn’t put up with that kind of shit when all you’ve done is try to love them. I’ve realised it wasn’t worth keeping if I had to plead for somebody to just give me that little extra bit of attention.
Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.
If they had the heart to tell you that they didn’t love you anymore, that would have been the biggest favour they did for you. Dwelling upon a lost love will only hinder your chances of finding happiness sooner. Meddling in their new relationships will only make you appear as the obsessive girl who couldn’t let go. Why not just go out there and do something to improve yourself? Don’t trip over something that’s already behind you!
I’m not saying you should just try and hit delete on your history. I’m saying that you shouldn’t let your past control who you can be in the future.
Sometimes, all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve
I’m an emotionally-driven person. I think, and think, until I realise that my mind has become one big crazy mess. I’ve hated myself for the mere fact that I have feelings! I hated being able to feel the hurt that was built up inside me for all those months before and after our break up. I hated feeling like a piece of rubbish that was discarded without a second thought.
But what can you do if the person you loved no longer loved you? Do you really deserve being shelved ‘for later use’? Again, I told myself I needed to respect myself and move on with my life and do the things that make me happy.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life, it cannot be changed, undone or forgotten. So take it as a lesson learned and move on.
The biggest mistake some people seem to make is thinking that there will be some crazy turn of events where things will magically get better. I’ve written a post previously about not regretting your past relationship and using the experience to your advantage. You kind of just need to realise that the love was not you expected, and the puzzle pieces didn’t fit. That way, you would have walked away from a relationship that was stagnant or just completely falsified by our own delusion.
Learning to be resolute and independent, to smile, and to give up on love that is not worth it, are signs of maturity.
Resolution, independence and new reasons to smile are all virtues that emerged after we broke up. Yes, it did take a few months for me to realise that it was not worth my tears anymore. Yes, I did hold onto that glimmer of hope that things weren’t what they seemed. And yes, I was in great denial that I, out of everyone out there would not fall victim to cheating in a relationship. But I’be learnt that it’s not my fault that they decided that I wasn’t worthy of their time and effort. It’s really just their loss for letting go of something that I, wholeheartedly, believed would have been something great.
Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life; Love shouldn’t be one of them.
I spent too many months towards the end of last year and the beginning of this year fawning over a love that was lost a long time ago. He stopped loving me for who I was, and his curiosity of what else was out there got the best of us. Even when enduring those nights of breaking up and getting back together, I was stuck in a huge bout of optimism that things had already hit rock bottom during our relationship and that it could only get better. Boy, was I wrong.
Towards the end of our relationship, I was the only one madly and passionately in love with him. He was too pre-occupied with going on a night out in town with his mates under the guise of being a wingman for his friends.
There is so much mediocrity in life. The crappy coffee you buy from a new place, the stale sandwiches from the day before that vendors sell you, the monotonous drone of your lecturer/tutor, the friends that decide you aren’t worthy of your time just because you’ve been busy with other things. Love shouldn’t be part of the list.
Love is a mutual feeling that doesn’t need to be forced. It’s not something you need to ask for to receive. It’s something built on trust and honesty.